SLOWING DOWN - PART 6
Tell-tale signs of being busy
What are the tell-tale signs of a debilitating medical condition known as gettingthingsdoneitis?
In last week’s article in the series SLOWING DOWN we looked at why being slow is not about being lazy. To read this article click here.
No matter what we do in life, we can always make ourselves busy so that there appears to be never enough time. The western world has been set up that way. We have all chosen this way of living, so we can therefore decide to opt out of the busyness.
Being aware is the first step. Being busy and not knowing how it is impacting on your life is not going to help instigate change.
Have you chosen to simply do nothing recently? That’s right, nothing. Just stop and be. No agenda, no expectations around completing something. No reason other than to spend time with yourself.
Seems simple enough? Yes and No.
YES, given you don’t have to perform or achieve an outcome.
NO, because we are programmed to be active and contribute as a way of validating our self-worth.
So, what are the tell-tale signs?
Do not be pushed into answering the questions below. A response is not the same as an answer. Ponder, take your time.
How serious are you?
Remember back to when you were a child, how serious were you then? Probably hardly ever, the opposite of seriousness as a child is joyfulness. As adults we become serious due to our responsibilities and at times we can over emphasise the importance of things in our lives.
Do you multi-task a lot?
Do you find it difficult to simply do one thing at a time? Do you find focusing just on one task a waste of time? Our hi-tech world is perfect for multi-tasking all the time. So how “distracted” are you when you are working on a task, what else is going on around you and what else are you tuning into?
When was the last time you daydreamed?
Can’t remember when? Ok, so how about you grab a cup of tea, put your feet up and allow yourself to daydream.
Have you been looking after your body?
Do you receive regular massage? What about exercise? Exercise lessens stress in your body.
Do you checkout at the end of the day?
After a busy day do you just “park your mind” by watching TV or browsing the internet? Such distractions take you away from being able to garner the real wisdom of your body, so you're not getting the benefit of checking in and really being able to be present in your life.
Are you hard on yourself?
Do you have high expectations and are you hard on yourself when they are not met? Don’t judge yourself for not being perfect. Be kind to yourself. Often the worst critique is the one inside your head. Be real, be realistic.
Next week in the final article in the series SLOWING DOWN we will look at slowing down strategies.